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How to Boost Your Self-esteem Quickly
Roger Elliott shares this article on how to boost self esteem.
Boosting self-esteem builds self-confidence and happiness.
I recommend the following guide to help you better understand and surmount any self-esteem barriers you face:
The Complete Self-esteem Workbook
If you're tired of feeling bad about yourself, or just want some
tips for those down days, these 7 practical strategies will help you
take action to boost your self-esteem.
Boost self-esteem tip #1: Think back to when you did something new for the first time.
Learning something new is often accompanied by feelings of nervousness, lack of self-belief and high stress levels, all of which are necessary parts of the learning process. The next time you feel under-confident, remembering this will remind you that it's perfectly normal - you're just learning!
Boost self-esteem tip #2: Do something you have been putting off.
Like writing or calling a friend, cleaning the house, tidying the
garden, fixing the car, organizing the bills, making a tasty and
healthy meal - anything that involved you making a decision, then
following through!
Boost self-esteem tip #3: Do something you are good at.
Examples? How about swimming, running, dancing, cooking, gardening,
climbing, painting, writing... If possible, it should be something
that holds your attention and requires enough focus to get you into
that state of `flow' where you forget about everything else. You
will feel more competent, accomplished and capable afterwards, great
antidotes to low self-esteem!
And while you're at it, seriously consider doing something like this
at least once a week. People who experience `flow' regularly seem to
be happier and healthier.
Boost self-esteem tip #4: Stop thinking about yourself!
I know this sounds strange, but low self-esteem is often accompanied
by too much focus on the self. Doing something that absorbs you and
holds your attention can quickly make you feel better.
Boost self-esteem tip #5: Get seriously relaxed.
If you are feeling low, anxious or lacking in confidence, the first
thing to do is to stop thinking and relax properly. Some people do
this by exercising, others by involving themselves in something that
occupies their mind. However, being able to relax yourself when you
want is a fantastic life skill and so practicing self-hypnosis,
meditation, or a physically based relaxation technique such as Tai
Chi can be incredibly useful.
When you are properly relaxed, your brain is less emotional and your
memory for good events works better. A great 'rescue remedy'!
Boost self-esteem tip #6: Remember all the things you have achieved.
This can be difficult at first, but after a while, you'll develop a
handy mental list of self-esteem boosting memories. And if you're
thinking "But I've never achieved anything", I'm not talking about
climbing Everest here.
Things like passing your driving test (despite being nervous),
passing exams (despite doubting that you would), playing team sport,
getting fit (even if you let it slip later), saving money for
something, trying to help someone (even if it didn't work) and so on.
Boost self-esteem tip #7: Remember that you could be wrong!
If you are feeling bad about yourself, remember that you way you
feel affects your thoughts, memory and behavior. So when you feel
bad, you will only remember the bad times, and will tend to be
pessimistic about yourself. This is where the tip `Get Seriously
Relaxed' comes in!
Once you have tried out a few of these, consider making them a
permanent part of your life. For most people, good self-esteem is
not just a happy accident, it's a result of the way they think and
the things they do from day to day. Good Luck!
EDITOR'S NOTE: There are many, many ways to boost your self confidence and your self-esteem. Explore what works best for you. Here is another "article", a Lesson plan on boosting self-esteem.
Roger Elliott is author of the Free Self Confidence Course,
a 6-week practical email guide to boosting
your confidence and self-esteem.
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